The 4 Keys of Willingness
Willingness – If we give more than we get, then we’ll get more than we give.
– John Chappelear
For anything to change, for good to enter your life, to reduce stress and create balance – first you have to be willing. Willingness is not so much an act as it is a mental trip-switch that says: “ok now let’s go”.
Willingness is the genesis of change. Without willingness nothing changes, actually nothing will even begin. Willingness is like oil in an engine, it’s a small thing but without it nothing works.
4 Willingness Keys to Positive Change
1. Willing to Face our Fears
I know it’s easier to hide from fear than face it, but eventually guilt and resentments over take our ability to hide. I know this from personal experience. What is holding us back from living the life of our dreams? Fear? Why? Faced fears get smaller, get done, and get gone.
2. Willing to Begin
There are many variations on the quote “eat the frog”. But simply put, it means for us to do the least enjoyable stuff first. It’s best if we get those actions behind us so we can move forward with much more enjoyable activities. Once we “begin,” all fears begin to fade. This is true for everything from 4th grade long division, to finishing your dissertation, to finding new ways to handle annual reviews.
3. Willing to Give Up the Illusion of Control
This is actually pretty easy once you understand you have no control over others. The only things we control are our own thoughts and choices. What we really have over other people, places and situations is influence, not control. The next time you feel the need to control rising up, ask yourself “am I trying to influence or control?” And then adjust accordingly.
4. Willing to Focus on the Success of Others.
My success is assured by the success of those around me. This is the key to strong relationships personally and professionally. When people know you genuinely care about them and their well-being, you have the roots of a great relationship. Focus on what you are putting into life and your relationships, not what we are getting out of them.
Overall, willingness helps us relax and enjoy our lives NOW, instead of in some distant, perfect “someday.” Are you willing to make positive changes in your life starting now? Only you hold the keys to your positive changes.